We got married July 27. It was an intimate ceremony at my parents' house. Last summer was rainy and cool and on our wedding day it drizzled off and on all morning. The plan was to do everything outside: Get married, play cornhole and enjoy our shredded turkey sandwiches in the sunshine. I was stressing over the sporadic rain but when it came to "I do" time, it stopped. We had our ceremony, took pictures, and it started up again. I feel like God stopped the rain just for us. The photos below were taken by a local photographer, Mearleen's Photography. She also made us the most amazing DVD. The DVD was very important to us because Vernon's parents were not able to be at the wedding. I told Mearleen how we wanted it done so that my future in-laws didn't miss anything. She delivered exactly what we wanted. We couldn't have asked for a more perfect wedding day.
Vernon, my daughter and nephews decorating the sign for the four wheeler.
We wanted an eggless cake and a local girl who bakes as a hobby sold her first cakes to us. She went above and beyond to find the most amazing eggless cake recipe and then perfected it.
This handsome couple graced the top of my parents' wedding cake many years ago.
Relationships change and
evolve over time. Technology also changes and evolves. Sometimes they go hand
in hand. Skype is eight years old. Myspace is eight years old. Facebook is
seven years old. Twitter is five years old and iGoogle was launched five years
ago as well. Eleven years ago, I met the man of my dreams, I had WebTV and I
had no idea that we would be where we are today; in our relationship or in
technology. If you are under twenty years old you probably have no idea what
WebTV is. How would a couple maintain a long distance relationship without the
technology listed above? Today’s kids probably don’t think about it and assume
it’s been around since the dawn of time. We “old folks” know better, although I
feel I’m speaking to a younger audience so I’ll tell you now…technology has
come such a long way in the last eleven years.
Vernon in Michigan 2001. I’m such a Yooper!
Vernon and I met online.
I was looking for young single parent support and he had made a post on a
pen-pal site. I’m not sure how I found him because I was not familiar with this
odd thing called “the internet” but he had everything I was looking for. He was
a single parent, was my age, had a child same age as mine in addition to a
younger child, and just wanted someone to write to, converse with, and interact
with. Only negative was that he was a guy…. well, if he turned into a ‘perv’
I’d just stop writing him. We emailed each other for a while and discussed
parenting, life, being single, working, and our pen-pal relationship turned
into friendship which turned into something I don’t have a word for. Not a word
that’s good enough anyway. We also wrote letters, you know, paper and pens and
envelopes and stamps. Those kinds of letters. After several months, maybe close
to a year, we finally exchanged pictures. Nope, no facebook yet, no picasa, we
MAILED them to each other. I do believe that Vernon had a scanner and scanned a
photo and emailed it to me. It took forever to download if I’m thinking of the
right picture. We had already fallen for each other before exchanging photos.
We got to know each other from the inside out. The photos were just a bonus.
As we got more familiar with
the internet we became familiar with chat rooms. I don’t remember if it was
yahoo or what, but we would have to log into the same chat room at the same
time. I would create a private one so we didn’t have to be bothered by all the
weirdo perverts out there looking for “cyber sex”. I remember the first
time some dude sent me a photo of his ‘junk’, that was pretty scary. It’s
always a good idea not to talk to strangers, in person or on the internet. I
then discovered an instant messenger program called ICQ. That was much better
than chatrooms. So we used that and Yahoo IM.
We wanted to hear each
other’s voice. I found a vending machine at the little shopping strip in my
town and it sold international phone cards. I could buy one for $20 and we
could talk for over 4 hours as long as we didn’t make multiple calls. Every
time a call was made it would deduct some sort of fee that would lessen our
minutes, so to get the most of our money we used it up in one shot. We did that
about once a month. Sometimes I would fall asleep on the phone, or so he says.
There were no laptops,
no wireless internet, and dial up internet was very expensive and the computers
were very large and cumbersome. For a while I didn’t have a computer at all at
home, just the webtv which had limited use. So when we did instant messenger it
was while I was at work. Shhhhh.
Now with cloud computing
(which is 100% of what my job consists of), digital photographs, Facebook,
Picasa, iGoogle, Yahoo IM, Skype, webcams, I can go on, but you get the
picture; our relationship has grown with the help of these tools. We are
constantly aware of the other’s schedule, mood, and even when traveling we can
keep in touch. We Skype once a week, only because of the 6 hour time difference
and we both work full time jobs. Otherwise, we’d probably Skype every day. I
have an awesome phone plan through Vonage where I can call him in the UK as
often as I like and only pay one flat rate. I take advantage of that when he
has days off of work and I call him when I get up at 6am. It’s a great way to
start my day. I have uploaded web cam photos of myself and sent them to him a
few minutes later. I record videos on my Flip Camera and he can watch them
whenever he wants. He doesn’t feel like he’s missing out on major events and I
can look at his photo albums any time I want. It makes the long distance
relationship so much easier. Waiting several weeks for a letter is terrible.
Don’t get me wrong, even with this technology, long distance relationships take
a lot of work, but it just seems easier now.
Me in England 2011. We still look HOT!
Our bond was really
strong from the beginning. I think that without this technology we’d still be
together but the times in between visits and letters would be even more
difficult and stressful. I don’t wish an LDR on anyone, but if you happen to be
in one, take advantage of the technology out there, appreciate the time you
have online, and make the best of it. Have fun and be creative. I still
manage to send Vernon postcards and the occasional letter or card. I guess I’m
a bit old fashioned that way.
We are nearing the end of our vacation together and I wanted us to spend some time with my parents. They were thrilled with the news of our engagement. They were the last ones to tell before we made the news public.
I had a big surprise planned for both Vern and Yaz, and couldn't wait to see the looks on their faces. First, we spent the day and a fun evening at the lake. We had a campfire and made s'mores. This was their first time having s'mores. I think Vern really liked them... he had two! While we were there the girls went four wheeling. It's something Heidi likes to do when we have visitors. Vernon has fallen in love with the U.P. and its scenery. He also really came to love the hummingbirds. He was insistent that there were no hummingbirds in the UK. I thought that was crazy, of course there are hummingbirds in the UK, with all those flowers... and after some research, we found there were no hummingbirds in the UK. We even came across a story about a guy who tried smuggling a bunch of them wrapped up in his pants... and got caught in customs. We thought that was amusing... poor little birds. I nearly convinced Vernon to get his mother a hummingbird feeder as a gift. What a sad gift that would have been. LOL
Dad and Vernon did some bonding.... dad was teaching Vernon how to grill. I enjoyed watching them. Vern looked like he was having a great time grilling.
Ok, now for the surprise. I took them to the rodeo! The rodeo comes to Iron River every year. It doesn't get more American than that does it? Everyone enjoyed themselves, from the barrel racing to the bull riding. The girls were a bit creeped out by the clown running through the stands, but that's pretty normal right?
At the rodeo, Yasmine asked me a very interesting question. She asked me why we sing the national anthem so often and also noticed that so many people have the American Flag hanging outside of their homes. Vern and Yaz were only here for two weeks, and in those two weeks, they had heard our national anthem three times. At the car races, the water ski show and then at the rodeo. It has always been normal for me so I never really thought about it. I just told her that we sing the national anthem before all sporting events and that Americans are very proud and patriotic.
The coolest part of the trip for me was the Shipwreck Tour in Munising. It was fascinating, interesting and eerie all at the same time. The boat we were on had glass windows on the bottom and you could see the shipwrecks so clearly. If you are ever in this area, I highly recommend it. The views are amazing as well.
Kid Rock made a video up in this area. When I hear this song I think of Vernon and the fun we all had up here as a family.
Vernon and I saw the largest steam driven pumping engine in the country; the Cornish Pump. This photo really doesn't do it justice. You feel like a miniature person like in Honey I Shrunk the Kids when you see the giant pistons. Yes, you may be thinking, oooh, a giant pump, how... um... boring! Well, Vernon enjoys mechanical stuff and history and I am interested in the history of Upper Michigan. We stopped at the Cornish Pump museum after having lunch and picking out my ring so it was a day with just the two of us. The girls were perfectly happy sitting at home on Facebook... and when we came home later that day, they were right where we left them that morning. In addition to all the cool mining stuff, the museum has another warehouse showing planes, gliders, old cars, military uniforms and other cool military stuff. Apparently the Ford plant here in Kingsford built the gliders they used in WWII. We watched a really interesting video of people actually working in the Ford plant here... which is now empty and deserted. These gliders did not have engines in them, and they carried personnel, vehicles and equipment. You have to see one to actually appreciate this concept. The way they were picked up by other planes was really cool too... one plane would pick up 2 or 3 at a time.. you have to see it to believe it. I found a video below, not the one we saw at the museum but one that shows how cool these gliders can be.
After our history lesson, we picked up my ring, and Yasmine and we went to the Ski-Ters show. I knew they would enjoy the water skiing. I make sure to go to at least one show every summer. I should go to more.. they are FREE! The radio station was there giving away door prizes.. I had entered Vernon's name without him knowing and his name was called! He was like, HUH? It was funny! He won a cd of some old country western singer, and it was autographed. He thought it would be a perfect gift to bring home to his parents. I thought that was a great idea as well.
There is this place just across the Michigan border in Spread Eagle. (Yes, that is the name of the unincorporated community) and there is a strip club in Spread Eagle! Pretty genius... anyway... I have always passed this place called the Bears Den and wondered if it was any good. Well after living up here for nearly 12 years I finally tried it out. This place is AWESOME! It's clean, well kept, and the people are nice. We spent an afternoon playing mini-golf and Vern kicked all our butts, but I came in second. Woo Hoo!
Next were the go-karts. Vernon was a speed demon and passing up the girls. Yasmine was holding her own and zipping around the track, and then there was Heidi... I laughed so hard every time she came around, so very cautious. Vern and Yaz would try to get around her because they lapped her a few times and Heidi would have this "Oh Shit!" look on her face. It was great. She drove right in the middle which made it difficult for anyone to get around her. Vernon's face was very serious and he was so focused. I loved watching him drive, I'm glad I chose to sit on the sidelines to take pictures.
I tried so hard to find a car show for Vern. He loves American cars, especially old American cars. I looked for weeks on websites, facebook, for anything anywhere in the U.P. or north eastern Wisconsin, I couldn't find anything. Then I remembered that there was a racetrack in Norway, MI so I looked in to that. We went to the races one night, and what we thought was only going to be a couple of hours was hours and hours and hours... I never knew these races took so long. UGH! The girls got sick of it really quick and ended up in the truck, Vern and I got tired after a while and left before it was over, but we had fun while we were there.
This post was a bit longer than I had planned, but I'm hoping you found it interesting or entertaining. I again tried to fit things into our schedule that were "American", or "Upper Michigan". I think I managed to succeed at that.
Do you have tourist traps, attractions or museums where you live? Do you ever go to them? I have been driving by the Cornish Pump/WWII Glider museum for 6 years without stopping in. Don't wait for company or out of town visitors to go... you may learn something about where you live and actually have some fun.
Yooper:a common term for residents of the Upper Peninsula of Michigan.
It was important to me to show Yasmine what I could about Iron Mountain and the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. I thought the Iron Mine would be interesting for everyone. Heidi and I have already been down there, but we surely didn't mind doing it again. I knew Vern would enjoy it, he loves that kind of stuff. Of course we had to stick our faces in the wooden cutout... it isn't a true tourist trap without one. (Right Kim M? LOL)
The next day we went out on the Menomonee River with a friend of mine. He was more than happy to give us a ride in his speed boat and show us some amazing scenery. The Menomonee River is the natural border between Wisconsin and Upper Michigan. In the photo to the left, we are facing west. Wisconsin is on our left and Michigan is on our right. Pretty cool. I've been living up here for quite some time, but I've never done this before. I had a blast! The girls really enjoyed it too. Vern went on and on how beautiful it was, and how awesome the houses on the river were. "If I lived out here I sure wouldn't be inside watching crap on TV, I'd be out here every day." He also pointed out one of the houses and said that if he were to win the lottery that is the house he would buy and he would move up here. Keep buying those lottery tickets Honey. Again, like the relaxing day at the beach, it was nice seeing Vernon sit back, relax and enjoy a beer. He really deserves it.
After spending an evening out on the river, we went home and had pastys for dinner. Of course Vernon has had real Cornish pastys, but they wanted to compare ours to the "originals". Everyone seemed to have enjoyed their dinner. Considering the drought, the corn from a local farm in northern Wisconsin wasn't too bad.
I wanted to squeeze in the ski jump at Pine Mountain but I never got around to it. I really wanted Yasmine to see it. I believe I have already taken Vernon there. Maybe next time.
